Palmistry Of Good Governance In Ekiti: The Silver Bullet lies In Leadership.
PREAMBLE:
Ekitivaluesrestoration we pray…..
The definition of leadership abhors all that is recalcitrant in nature and conduct. Anyone who peddles fake news to hamper this sincere #JKF led @ekitistategov that is trying to restore #Ekitivalues will be hampered of progress too!
As Nigerians await the outcome of first of many possible litigation against former governor Fayose, not a few Ekiti maintain that Former Governor Fayose, in his uncouth language, attitude and rough-hewn rulership, gave the indigenes a poor image in the eyes of the world.
ISSUES AMONGST MANY:
Maya Angelou’s quote remains classically relevant in the scenario at hand…
‘People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.’
Satirically (& ironic) I, an Ekiti man start this insightful and instructive write-up by citing an Igbo proverb hoping to drive home a message to the “ego deflated” immediate past governor of Ekiti….
E tikata aka n’obi, egosi ndị mmụọ ebe ndụ dị. (Frequent beating of the chest may inadvertently reveals to the spirits where life is situated). Moderation is crucial; too much of everything is bad.
Today, where are the (mostly Lagos & Abuja based) South Eastern originate people that ingloriously edged OSOKO to an early political end in oblivion? Where is Nnamdi Kalu that OSOKO garrulously went for photo opportunity calls with in an attempt to discredit our President and his Team Members’ tireless efforts at doing right for the Nigerian masses?
God knows His own!!
As clearly exemplified in OSOKO’S leadership penchant for distorting facts ended in a style not yet again to be recorded in the political history of Ekiti and even Nigeria (A FIASCO); in OSOKO’S own words, “I’m in severe pain”, and prophetically so you he remained.
Amongst your so many infractions, I’m to remind you OSOKO sir:
- How do you hate somebody to the point of wishing him dead? This has to be the highest manifestation of a sick mind, and cowardice. If you ever get to that point in your hatred of anyone, politician or not, it only means you are a pathetic loser.
- “Ebora toun je Paris fund”, became the street parlance and new definition for gourmandism, gluttonousness, voraciousness, insatiability, polyphagia, hyperphagia!!
Even you OSOKO sir, on numerous occasions publicly gloated at the suffering of those civil servants at the receiving end of the hardship brought about by your glutinous consumption of our commonwealth (their salaries inclusive) despite the good intentions of the Federal Government to mitigate the effect of many then governor’s limited financial knowledge or deliberate and conscious approach to impoverish their citizenry. You are definitely guilty of “EPICARICACY”; this is an English word to describe that slight feeling of joy a person get from the misfortune of other people. - I’m to remind you sir, of our personal encounter at the Ikoyi, Lagos High Court during your first Court appearance for corruption charges filed against you by EFCC!
To God be all the glory. Though you didn’t give audible verbal instructions that I should be attacked, I escaped your supporters’ botched instigated MOB/LYNCH attack on my person within court premises. This story is for another day, but I thank my MENTORS (I’m not to mention names!!) & Rotimi Jacobs SAN for their quick intervention, otherwise the story would have been different; I also thank the presiding Judge….who used her discretion by not acceding to the request by the defense attorney to declare my person in contempt of court; In all honesty, I didn’t hear or see you give instructions that I should be attacked as further evidenced by our 15 minutes conversation after the presiding judge’s intervention, but worthy of note was the clandestine and incisive demeanor of Dr Omotosho, and others there present… We will meet again but on a different term!!
Èwe to tí ń ru ó, kó tó ṣe alairu mọ, a soju Olúwa:
Cocoa to tí ń so rí o, ko tó ṣe alaiso mọ, a soju olóko:
Osika ẹ parapọ̀ ẹ fẹ́ wole ọlá, ẹ ó parapọ̀ ẹ ó tún kọ…
[Whatever will make a once blooming tree to become dry, God must be in the know
The farmer must be aware before his once productive cocoa stops bearing fruits
Wicked people, you conspired to pull down the building of the wealthy, you will gather together again to rebuild it…]
The third point to bring out at this stage of my write-up is the fact that your leadership brought out a sense of claim of right to notoriety & in some instances brigandage in our youth in Ekiti. Fresh in my mind was the unwholesome events that ushered in your reign whereby bus loads of “women of easy virtues” were imported into our state capital to celebrate your then questionable electoral victory. Gradually our youth are been weaned off this abnormalities.
REAL-TIME IN TODAY’S EKITI/NIGERIA
Six months plus after your second opportunity at governing #Ekiti…
President Muhammad Buhari is hale and hearty; Ekiti State workforce wages, Pensions and Gratuity are paid on time as outstanding bills owed by Fayose led administration are been gradually paid off; the JKF administration’s #Ekitivaluesrestoration agenda is wholly accepted by all and sundry!!
The talk on lips at every corner is, “how is the JKF administration managing to meet these obligations despite no apparent increase in federal fund allocation?”
Erstwhile moribund industries (state and private owned) are gradually been resuscitated!!
Every quarters of Ekiti society is being heard and receiving prompt necessary government responses…
The silver bullet lies in leadership!!
Leaders are often defined by their different or combination of leadership styles. It’s their ability to get things done and make progress that sets them apart. I’ve had the honor of interacting with different categories of leaders across broad spectrum in our society. The one thing that I’ve found that separates the quality of people – the single largest difference – is the capacity to lead.
Leadership skills are not a gift we are born with, Leadership skills are something anyone with the right mental balance and emotional intelligence can learn.
Leadership is not luck nor is it haphazard. Anyone who has been successful in any one area consistently is not lucky. They are doing something unique. Remember, success leaves clues!
No matter where you are in the world, who you are or what you do, human need is the common force that drives us all.
This section of the article should hopefully instruct on:
• How to determine which human needs drive your individual actions.
• How to know what drives people to do what they do?
All leaders want to be competent and successful. The problem is that the quest for success can be demanding. It can feel lonely at the top. Yet, you can’t afford to be isolated. Leaders deserve a rich, full life—including a social life. Every leader can thrive by cultivating friendships, protecting time for friendship, and enjoying leisure time with friends. Borrowing from the famous book “Things Fall Apart”- That boy calls you father. Do not bear a hand in his death.”
My admonition to friends of our leader…. “That colleague calls you friend; do not hurt him to advance your career”!
To start with, we all know what the basic human needs are -food, clothing, shelter and safety. Maybe you even know something about spiritual needs or primal needs. But what about the forces that cause some people to sacrifice their lives for others while others murder strangers just for fun? What creates a Martin Luther King, Jr. Nelson Mandela – or a Poi Pot of Cambodia? Idi Amin of Uganda, Mother Teresa, or self-centered Fayose or even Evans the kidnapper in Lagos, Nigeria.
I believe answers lie in our understanding of the following Human needs.
The Human Needs under consideration in this piece consist of needs that are basic which keep us all alive, they are necessities. We all find ways to meet these needs in positive, negative, or neutral ways. No matter the method, they always get met; and SPIRITUAL.
What cause us to experience sustainable joy instead of just momentary pleasure. The root of what makes us great as human, spiritual needs also drive us to make a real impact in the world.
1: CERTAINTY/COMFORT.
Certainty is the number one solution when you’re figuring out “Why I do the things I do.” We all want certainty and stability for necessities like food, cloths and shelter – these human needs allow us to live.
Certainty is about feeling secure and in control. It’s the assurance you can avoid pain and gain pleasure.
When we can’t control physical circumstances in our environment, we might seek certainty through our state of mind such as through religious faith base affiliations or simply cultivating a positive mental outlook.
People who have certainty as a driving need are consistent, they complete tasks, and they are excellent at making plans and make strategy. They also tend to be risk averse.
Seeking certainty can also make people easily fall into the trap of thinking they have no control over situations and give up; they can also engage with destructive behaviors as a way of creating comfort.
2: UNCERTAINTY/VARIETY
We all need change, to experience a range of emotions and states. Variety which comes from uncertainty is about feeling stimulated and embracing the unknown; this need can be interpreted in constructive and destructive ways. It’s the human need for newness.
Variety can come from everything, from a change of scene, to physical challenge or activities, entertainment to food, hobbies to jobs.
People who seek variety as a driving need are adaptable, energetic, and have a keen sense of adventure. They’re people who have countless interests and are always curious to learn something new. They tend to be plan averse, making long-term jobs, relationships or investments challenges.
Variety seekers can also be unfocused and thus seen as careless or unreliable. They also can develop destructive patterns with relationships, food, drinking or drugs to ensure constant variety.
3: SIGNIFICANCE
Significance makes us feel unique and special.
Who doesn’t want to feel needed?
Significance drives us to seek recognition and the confirmation from others (or ourselves) that we are important. It’s what pushes us to make a difference and create strong personal identities or brand.
Anger is another way we can create significance, particularly when we feel overlooked or unheard.
Those with significance as a top need have a clear sense of purpose, plenty of accomplishments, and often stand out from the rest of the pack. They tend to be individualistic and perfectionists.
Seeking significance can also lead to people becoming overly status-focused, relying on markers like material possessions, money, official designation or even degrees to show the world how good they are.
For many of those that are significance driven, connecting with others can be incredibly challenging, as they often view other people as competition instead of allies or friends.
4: GROWTH
If you must know, everything in the universe is either growing or dying.
Growth is all about the human desire to increase our sense of capacity, capability or understanding. We seek to expand ourselves to feel deeply satisfied.
Growth can be physical, intellectual, spiritual and emotional.
For those with growth as a driving need, they constantly strive to learn new things. They push their boundaries and are fairly self-sufficient; they also understand the importance of detachment in regards to material things.
Those seeking the spiritual need of growth can risk leaving others behind because of their devotion to their own improvement.
They also run the risk of never feeling satisfied, particularly in periods of rest from active development.
5: CONTRIBUTION
Giving to others is the true secret to fulfillment. Those who seek contribution know the importance of thinking beyond ourselves through acts of human kindness and consideration in our giving.
Contribution is the basis for survival as a species – no baby ever grew up alone, right?
Contribution is what inspires us to share joy and excitement because sharing magnifies good feelings in us as well as others in our selfless giving.
People with the driving need of contribution have a deep sense of service and leadership. They focus on helping, giving to and supporting others. Their compassion and sense of self are deep.
They’re dependable.
Seeking contribution can sometimes lead to exhaustion, as people try to give more than they have, neglecting their own well-being in the process.
This spiritual need can also make it difficult to say “no” to those needing help
@kfayemi will succeed!!