SHE IS IN THIS RACE TO WIN…
There is a distinction between women/men politicians. Family members actively supporting political spouses are key success factors and deserve to be celebrated in their own right when their spouses succeed, as they equally suffer when their spouses experience crisis.
Case studies consulted from recent world history and the Nigerian context have a universally accepted code;
An open, free democracy does not mean it is ok to target politicians’ children and spouses, regardless of gender or political allegiance.
This feature, “SHE IS IN THIS RACE TO WIN” as presented in the Lifestyle section of my webpage (-A Column for Women In Politics, Dedicated To Promoting Women Empowerment) looks to X-ray “THE
POLITICIAN’S FEMALE SPOUSE AND HER EXPERIENCES”.
The premises upon which the choice of focusing on the female spouse of the politician is made lies in the arithmetic as evidenced; “women and non-passage of the 35% affirmative action bill by Nigeria parliamentarians”. Out of 469 members of the two arms of the legislature, only 21 are female. Statistically, this means women comprise only 4% of the National Assembly. The situation is not significantly different in the executive arm which has only ever produced 1 female governor, Dame Virginia Ngozi Etiaba of Anambra state, whose tenure only lasted 4 months.
I’m correct to declare that success at workplace for any individual owes a larger percentage to a stable, reassured home. The majority of our nation’s drivers are married men, therefore it equates that the homekeeper in our womenfolk must automatically take the larger percentage of the success encomium attributable to our men’s success stories, that being the politician’s female spouse!!!
The brunt of the “race to success” by any male politician is burdened by the female spouse virtually in all realms; psychologically, physiologically and even spiritually (I learnt the origin of prayer warrior recently, Lols…).
The question to now ask is, what keeps the female spouse of our politicians going till the finish line?
Classical response from a recent comment by Senator Daisy Danjuma…..
“Many people wouldn’t know what we have been through together.. Nobody sees your struggle until you’re successful.. Thank you for the woman you have made me become, my Role Model. I’m so lucky to have your type as my husband. Together we live forever”- Sen. Daisy Danjuma
On failure and strength: Michelle Obama talked a lot about the strength of women – from everything to childbirth, to high heels, to emotional tests. “Women live every day with thousands of little cuts they get from the rest of the world, but they still get up and keep going.” These cuts have become so second nature to many, that they don’t even notice them any more. And keeping with the theme of speaking up, the former First Lady reminded all of us to talk about our failures to keep role models grounded in reality. “Failure is like a cut – some are deeper than others, some hurt more than others. But all cuts heal with time.” The cuts change – they may scar, we may still see them, but they’re a part of us. – https://survivingleadership.blog/2017/07/27/vulnerability-and-strength-an-evening-with-michelle-obama/
Takeaway: The absence of failure is not strength. The ability to share failure and learn from it is true strength.
As they are called ‘first ladies’, that is exactly how they are expected to take the lead in everything that is good, from virtues down to good looks.
Femininity is more beautiful when there is strength of voice and a high Conviction out of determination to succeed.
She is best appreciated for her hands on approach to constituency matters!!
My fellow Middlesex university alumnus, this politician’s spouse with immense passion for the upliftment of women, Human Rights enforcement and the succes of her man is her Excellency Erelu Bisi Fayemi.
“Instead of the people to see it as the fact that they got two for the price of one, they did not like the idea.”- Kayode Fayemi.
Speaking at a specialised session on Government (Daystar christian centre, 2015) Dr Fayemi said his wife is passionate about the twin issues of human rights and politics….
At the session, Dr Fayemi said: “Some people felt she was too upfront and involved. But her motive was that she wanted the society to improve”
– https://theeagleonline.com.ng/how-my-wife-got-me-into-trouble-as-ekiti-governor-fayemi/
The right words at the right time is like a custom-made piece of jewelry. Proverbs 25:11
A person to share with, that encourages and also connect with. An intrinsic part of even a pastor and wife’s relationship is romance. The bond between couples is strengthened through constant show of attention & affection. Quiet times, Birthdays and other anniversaries are too be enjoined together. Never underestimate the beauty or the power of seemingly small moments. When we get to heaven I think we will be surprised by what actually mattered the most… what actually changed the world… what actually fulfilled the purpose for which we were created.
In celebration of love (2017) Asiwaju Bola Tinubu and his wife, Sen. Oluremi Tinubu organised a low-key event, where they were joined by friends and family members to give thanks to God as they celebrated their wedding anniversay.
At the event, beautiful senator Oluremi was said to have described her husband as a lion in politics, but a lamb in marriage; a master of deliberation, but a partner at home; a man of testimony and a faithful servant of God.
Similarly, Asiwaju Tinubu reportedly described his wife as a good mother, a loving wife, an excellent listener and a good homemaker. – https://www.thisdaylive.com/index.php/2017/09/02/tinubu-wife-celebrate-wedding-anniversary/
After a reader finishes an article, it’s often the ending that resonates most strongly. In some ways, the whole article is about its ending: Everything leads up to the ending, and once it’s over, everything points back to it!
A good politician’s spouse will continuously re-invent herself, again with the objective of further promoting that main cause; the reflection of the possible best public perception of her politician husband.
Vision (ability to see people and things as they should be) makes a leader. Where there is no vision, there is no leader.
Dear women; read, imagine, rearrange ideas in your mind, pray. See something new, say what you see, plan and act on your plan
I cherish the tenacity of not only the herein cited politicians’ spouses, but to all women (at large) who make life meaningful for their families….
Their energy proves there is life outside and after politics.
